11. We Can Work It Out

"In every community there is work to be done. In every nation, there are wounds to heal. In every heart there is the power to do it." -- Marianne Williamson

Conflicts will always happen, but the way we deal with them can make all the difference. We can choose to transform a potentially explosive situation into a time of growth. The basis of peaceful conflict resolution is realizing we are part of a community, and if we try, we can find a way that BOTH SIDES CAN WIN.

The first step to solving a problem peacefully is to AGREE to try to solve the problem. Both sides must agree to treat each other with respect. Each must have an opportunity to express their point of view about what the problem is. Both must listen and try to understand the other's point of view.

Then, both sides try to come up with as many possible solutions as they can, in which both benefit. Examine each possibility; then try combining some to see if any of the solutions would be practical and fair for both sides. Finally, come up with a specific plan that you agree to try to implement together.

It may take time and a lot of practice, but each effort to strive for peaceful relationships is a victory. As long as we don't accept defeat, and we resolve ourselves to keep trying to heal relationships that aren't flowing smoothly, we are winning the battle for a better world.