do we teach our children? . . . We should say to
each of them: Do you know what you are? You are
a marvel. You are unique . . . You may become a
Shakespeare, a Michelangelo, a Beethoven. You have
the capacity for anything.
your children openly, reprehend them secretly.
-- W. Cecil
understand your parents' love, you must raise children
-- Chinese proverb
is nothing more precious to a parent than a child,
and nothing more important to our future than the
safety of all our children.”
have more need of models than of critics.
-- Carolyn Coats
spite of the six thousand manuals on child raising
in the bookstores, child raising is still a dark
continent and no one really knows anything. You
just need a lot of love and luck - and, of course,
needs to come to the forefront.
though your kids will consistently do the exact
opposite of what you're telling them to do, you
have to keep loving them just as much.
I've ever done has given me more joys and rewards than
being a father to my children.
modeling is the most basic responsibility of parents.
Parents are handing life's scripts to their children,
scripts that in all likelihood will be acted out for the
rest of the children's lives.
-- Stephen R. Covey
“It's all kinds of these profound things crashing
on you when your child arrives into the world. It's
like you've met your reason to live.”
considerate of others will take you and your children
further in life than any college or professional
the child. Be not too much his parent. Trespass not
on his solitude.”
worry that children never listen to you; worry that they
are always watching you.
-- Robert Fulghum
are usually more careful to bestow knowledge on
their children rather than virtue, the art of speaking
well rather than doing well; but their manners should
be of the greatest concern.
you want your children to improve, let them overhear the
nice things you say about them to others.
Women will only have true equality when men share
with them the responsibility of bringing up the next
best training any parent can give a child is to train
the child to train himself.”
-- A. P. Gouthey
trying to perfect your child, but keep trying to perfect
your relationship with him.
-- Dr. Henker
need love, especially when they do not deserve it.
-- Harold Hulbert
Your children need your presence more than your
family is the corner stone of our society. More than any
other force it shapes the attitude, the hopes, the ambitions,
and the values of the child. And when the family collapses
it is the children that are usually damaged. When it happens
on a massive scale the community itself is crippled. So,
unless we work to strengthen the family, to create conditions
under which most parents will stay together, all the rest
— schools, playgrounds, and public assitance, and private
concern — will never be enough.
-- Lyndon Johnson
Life affords no greater responsibility, no greater
privilege, than the raising of the next generation.
I had my child to raise all over again, I'd build self-esteem
first, and the house later. I'd finger-paint more, and
point the finger less. I would do less correcting and
more connecting. I'd take my eyes off my watch, and watch
with my eyes. I'd take more hikes and fly more kites.
I'd stop playing serious, and seriously play. I would
run through more fields and gaze at more stars. I'd do
more hugging and less tugging.
-- Diane Loomans, from "If I Had My Child To Raise Over
not only children who grow. Parents do too. As much as
we watch to see what our children do with their lives,
they are watching us to see what we do with ours. I can't
tell my children to reach for the sun. All I can do is
reach for it, myself.
-- Joyce Maynard
Learn What They Live -
If a child lives with criticism, he learns to condemn.
If a child lives with hostility, he learns to fight.
If a child lives with ridicule, he learns to be shy.
If a child learns to feel shame, he learns to feel guilty.
If a child lives with tolerance, he learns to be patient.
If a child lives with encouragement he learns confidence
If a child lives with praise, he learns to appreciate.
He a child lives with fairness, he learns justice.
If a child lives with security, he learns to have faith.
If a child lives with approval, he learns to like himself.
If a child lives with acceptance and friendship, he learns
to find love in the world.
-- Dorothy Law Neite
guys who fear becoming fathers don't understand that fathering
is not something perfect men do, but something that perfects
the man. The end product of child raising is not the child
but the parent.
-- Frank Pittman
are born, we grow up, we live our lives as best
we can. If we are thoughtful we are good parents
and good partners. If we are wise we strive for
integrity and intimacy. If we are fortunate we discover
love and joy. If we are able, we make the world
a little better than we found it."
fails us and so do friendships, but the relationship of
parent and child, less noisy than all the others, remains
indelible and indestructible, the strongest relationship
-- Theodore Reik
parents give their children Roots and Wings. Roots
to know where home is, wings to fly away and exercise
what's been taught them."
are our second chance to have a great parent-child relationship”
-- Laura Schlessinger
my kids to give back is an essential part of parenting.
It’s not something that’s optional. Compassion is one
of the basic values that I want my children to have: that
if they see a need, whether it’s around the corner or
thousands of miles of away, they should feel motivated
to do whatever they can to help.
-- Kate Snow (NBC Nightline)
child supplies the power but the parents have to
do the steering.
the time a person is a child he is both a child
and learning to be a parent. After he becomes a
parent he becomes predominantly a parent reliving
American children suffer too much mother and too little
the decision to have a child is momentous. It is to decide
forever to have your heart go walking around outside your
-- Elizabeth Stone
is better to bind your children to you by a feeling of
respect and by gentleness, than by fear.
to the desires of your children. Encourage them and then
give them the autonomy to make their own decision.
-- Denis Waitley
best way to make children good is to make them happy.
-- Oscar Wilde
should never permit ourselves to do anything that we are
not willing to see our children do.
-- Brigham Young