Negotiation
in the classic diplomatic sense assumes parties more anxious to agree than to
disagree -- Dean Acheson
Conflicts
are a normal part of life; how we deal with them can make a big difference. Often
when people resolve conflicts, one person ends up a winner, and one loses out.
This may solve the problem for the moment, but resentment and bad feelings can
cause more problems later. Another way to look at conflicts is to try to find
a WIN-WIN solution, in which both sides can benefit. In this way, conflicts are
turned into opportunities to grow and make things better. This approach is the
cornerstone of "conflict resolution" - an important tool for bringing peace into
our personal lives, our communities and to our world. -- Robert Alan Silverstein
Start out
with an ideal and end up with a deal. -- Karl Albrecht
Tactics mean
doing what you can with what you have...tactics is the art of how to take and
how to give. -- Saul
Alinsky
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Change
means movement. Movement means friction. Only in the frictionless vacuum of a
nonexistent abstract world can movement or change occur without that abrasive
friction of conflict. -- Saul
Alinsky
“The
Law of Win/Win says, ”Let’s not do it your way or my way; let’s do it the best
way” -- Greg Anderson
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Terrorism
constitutes a direct attack on the values the UN stands for: the rule of law;
the protection of civilians; peaceful resolution of conflicts; and mutual respect
between people of different faiths and cultures,” -- Kofi
Annan
*
Mediation
and reconciliation work is about a profound quest for justice and social transformation.
But at the same time, they are about service, solidarity, about exploring and
rediscovering the human spirit that has been lost or shattered through human conflict,
cruelty, ignorance and greed… -- Hizkias
Assefa
The
most difficult thing in any negotiation, almost, is making sure that you strip
it of the emotion and deal with the facts. -- Howard Baker
*
If
you start a conversation with the assumption that you are right or that you must
win, obviously it is difficult to talk. ~ Wendell
Berry
*There
is no time left for anything but to make peace
work a dimension of our every waking activity
-- Elise
Boulding
If
you can’t go around it, over it, or through it, you had better negotiate with
it. -- Ashleigh Brilliant
“Meditation
brings wisdom; lack of meditation
leaves ignorance. Know well what leads you forward and
what hold you back, and choose the path that leads to
wisdom.
-- Buddha
All
government, indeed every human benefit and enjoyment,
every virtue, and every prudent act, is founded on compromise
and barter.
-- Edmund Burke
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“Unless
both sides win, no agreement can be permanent.” ~ Jimmy
Carter
“One
of the most basic principles for making and keeping peace within and between nations.
. . is that in political, military, moral, and spiritual confrontations, there
should be an honest attempt at the reconciliation of differences before resorting
to combat” ~ Jimmy
Carter
*
“Unless
both sides win, no agreement can be permanent.”
~ Jimmy
Carter
Difficulties
are meant to rouse, not discourage. The human spirit is to grow strong by conflict.
-- William Ellery Channing
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“If
you believe in a security strategy -- a strategy of more friends and fewer enemies,
a strategy of greater cooperation and a strategy of keeping America better at
home as we grow more diverse -- we have to build the minds and hearts to build
this kind of world.” ~ Bill
Clinton
*
Only
reverence can restrain violence — reverence for human life and the environment.
-- William Sloane Coffin
Peace produced by
suppression is neither natural nor desirable. -- Anna Julia Cooper
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The
reality today is that we are all interdependent and have to co-exist on this small
planet. Therefore, the only sensible and intelligent way of resolving differences
and clashes of interests, whether between individuals or nations, is through dialogue.
- The Dalai Lama
*
The
reality today is that we are all interdependent
and have to co-exist on this small planet. Therefore,
the only sensible and intelligent way of resolving
differences and clashes of interests, whether between
individuals or nations, is through dialogue.
- The
Dalai Lama
I feel very
strongly that you can't just beat people up anymore; you have to work hand in
hand and find ways to compromise, and get big business involved, because it won't
happen otherwise. -- Ted
Danson
*
Gandhi
once declared that it was his wife who unwittingly taught him the effectiveness
of nonviolence. Who better than women should know that battles can be won without
resorting to physical strength. -- Barbara
Deming
Adopt
a new philosophy of cooperation (win-win) in which everybody wins -- W. Edwards
Deming
There
is more than a verbal tie between the words common, community, and communication....
Try the experiment of communicating, with fullness and accuracy, some experience
to another, especially if it be somewhat complicated, and you will find your own
attitude toward your experience changing.
-- John Dewey
"The most important thing
in communication is to hear what isn't being said." -- Peter
F. Drucker
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"I
wish that the Resolving Conflict Creatively Program could be taught in every classroom
in America, because we are not going to deal with the violence in our communities,
our homes, and our nation, until we learn to deal with the basic ethic of how
we resolve our disputes and to place an emphasis on peace in the way we relate
to one another." -- Marian
Wright Edelman
Every kind of peaceful
cooperation among men is primarily based on mutual trust and only secondarily
on institutions such as courts of justice and police” -- Albert
Einstein
Peace
cannot be kept by force; it can only be achieved through understanding. --
Albert Einstein
*
"There's
been a quantum leap technologically in our age, but unless there's another quantum
leap in human relations, unless we learn to live in a new way towards one another,
there will be a catastrophe." -- Albert
Einstein
*
Peace
cannot be kept by force; it can only be achieved
through understanding.
-- Albert
Einstein
*
People
talk about the middle of the road as though it were unacceptable. Actually, all
human problems, excepting morals, come into the gray areas. Things are not all
black and white. There have to be compromises. The middle of the road is all of
the usable surface. The extremes, right and left, are in the gutters. --
Dwight D. Eisenhower
“Though force can protect in
emergency, only justice, fairness, consideration and cooperation can finally lead
men to the dawn of eternal peace.” -- Dwight
D. Eisenhower
Blessed
is the man who having nothing to say, abstains from giving in words evidence of
the fact. -- George Elliot.
*
We
need to learn and to show others that there are tried and tested, powerful ways
of containing and resolving conflict which do not require the use of force.
-- Scilla Elworthy
More
and more individuals worldwide are realizing that war does not solve conflict,
nor resolve long-standing cycles of violence. As more of those who have this understanding
communicate it to policy-makers and more particularly, start implementing it in
their own lives and localities, change will start to happen. -- Scilla
Elworthy
If
governments were kind, they'd realize that conficts are resolved and wars prevented
not by armies but by ordinary people.
-- Scilla Elworthy
*
The
god of Victory is said to be one-handed, but Peace gives victory to both sides.
-- Ralph Waldo Emerson
He who has learned
to disagree without being disagreeable has discovered the most valuable secret
of a diplomat. -- Robert Estabrook
